Secret of Childhood

Transformation of a child

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“Actually the normal child is one who is precociously intelligent, who has learned to overcome himself and to life in peace, and who prefers a disciplined task to futile idleness…..Man’s true nature lies hidden within himself. And this nature, which was given him at conception, must be recognized and allowed to grow.” (p. 148, para. 1)

Thoughts after reading Part II: 21. The pampered child

It is amazing to watch a classroom transform and become normalized. The first day of school may seem a bit chaotic as new children are added into the mix without previous Montessori experience; however, they will see the actions of the children who are used to the Montessori environment. The teacher will start introducing materials to the student, hoping with each lesson that the child will become interested and begin the transformation.

The normalization process is not just for a certain type of child. Each child has their own developmental obstacles. For a child the normalization process is easier without the distractions. Today’s children may be too involved video games, computer apps or other electronic devices. Some children may seem to fancy elaborate toys or fantasy play. Yet, the Montessori classroom is organized with materials that aid in a child’s self development. Lessons are meaningful and help the child build their own imagination with real knowledge as a foundation.

Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 143-148). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

 

Freeing the child from external pressure

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“Their parents were illiterate, and their teacher an ordinary working woman, without ambition and without preconceptions. This led to a kind of intellectual calm.” (p.137, para. 2)

Thoughts after reading Part II: 20. The “Method”

Teachers are under pressure to have their students perform well on tests. Placing expectations on what the student’s potential should be may limit or discourage the child. When a child puts their heart and soul into an assignment and gets negative feedback  their confidence can be shattered.

Montessori noticed that one of the key ingredients in the Children’s Home success was that the teacher did not have personal ambition attached to the child’s performance. Regardless of what the children accomplished, the teacher would not feel worried or concerned.  Freedom from expectations, allows one to be free from external pressures. The goal of a Montessori education is to help the child develop his own potential.  Freeing him from the expectations, allows him to set his own goals and aspirations.

Montessorians want students to experience self-accomplishment, developing intrinsic motivation which refines self-discipline. Every year in our Lower Elementary Program for 1st -3rd grade, our students create a Passion Project.  This is a report about a topic the student is passionate about.   I observed the students sharing information from their projects with each other and I saw each child gaining credibility with their peers and self-confidence. Free from external expectations, the child experiences their own success and sense of accomplishment.

 

Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (p. 136-142). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

 

Discovering the child

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“Because a child is constantly passing from a lower to higher state, his every passing minute is precious…. (H)e is fascinated by everything that contributes to his development and becomes indifferent to idle occupations. ” (p. 122, para. 4)

Thoughts after reading Part II: 19. Observations and Discoveries

Repetition of exercise, free choice, absence of toys, no rewards or punishments, silence activities, the dignity and self discipline of the child and early reading and writing are all mysteries encapsulated within the Montessori Method. When observers come into a Montessori classroom they are surprised by the order and the disciplined way that children carry out their task. Some ask “Where are the toys?” or “Why aren’t the children playing?”

In Maria’s classroom toys were available, but so were developmental materials. The toys were neglected and left un-chosen by the children in her classroom. Instead the children would seek activities that helped them grow and develop physically and mentally. Perhaps as adults we tend to put on children our own expectations of what activities children should enjoy. Given free choice to select what they want to do in a Montessori Classroom, allows the teacher to observe what the individual child is working on developmentally. These cues can give the teacher knowledge about the individual child to help guide them through their developmental journey.

The Montessori environment affected more than just the children. The dignity of the children transformed their families and homes. Children want to be part of the family, helping in the home. Their contributions help them feel valued and part of a community. The children from Maria’s Children’s House transformed their community. In spite of their poverty, “(b)roken pots began to disappear from the window sills. Window panes began to sparkle and geraniums began to blossom in the windows facing the courtyard (p. 129, para. 3).”

Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 119-135). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Allowing a child his own rhythm

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social-Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 88-90). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART 1: 13. Rhythm

“We take pleasure in associating with others whose rhythmical movements are like our own but are pained when we are forced to adapt ourselves to other rhythms.” (p. 89, para 2)

The rhythm in which Montessori is referring to is the cadence of performing activities or tasks.  She discusses the misalignment between the rhythm of the adult and the rhythm of the child.    She compares it to how one may interact with someone with a disability that moves at a slower pace.  We are often compelled to help them, even though they may be comfortable and content with their own effort.  Jumping in to help a child may not be as generous as the notion may seem at first glance.  This interruption may create a developmental obstacle for the child.

In a Montessori Classroom, you will notice that the teachers are not quick to jump in and assist a child with their work.  They observe from the sidelines and take note of their progress; much like a scientist observes an experiment.  When a child asks for help, the teacher is careful not to take over and often models the action involved, encouraging the child to do the task for themselves. The teacher is patient and kind in their methods. Although, the final result may not be perfect, the process of performing the action and the practice of the motions required from the work are valued.  The result is a confident child who will continue to develop his independence.

Purposeful hands

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social-Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 80-87). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART 1: 12. The Hand

“Sometimes very small children in a proper environment develop a skill and exactness in their work that can only surprise us.” (p. 87, para 2)

Children want to touch things. Use of their hands is an important development, essential for human life. Maria reminds us how we use hands to express ourselves, ceremoniously, and for essential human activity. In spite of their importance, many children are told repetitively not to touch certain items and to keep their hands to themselves.

Children are interested in doing what they see the adults doing. They want to be part of their family and participate as others do. Work that may seem mundane to an adult, can be very meaningful to child. Sometimes as parents it is so easy to jump in and do a task quickly, even though the child wants to help. Allowing them the opportunity to carry, to pour, to fold, to wash, or to sweep gives them purpose.

A Montessori classroom provides an environment for which controlled movements can be perfected. You will find that many Montessori students love to help in the kitchen, as they have practiced pouring and cutting exercises at school. A parent may look at a Montessori classroom and ask where the toys are; however, one may not understand that the child finds joy in an environment that they can take care of and which allows them to practice activities they want to do.

Forced napping, an obstacle to growth

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 71-75). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART 1: 10. Obstacles to Growth, Sleep

“(I)f a child is so alert and so quick to observe, he is not a “sleeper” by his very nature. He has need of, and certainly should get, a normal amount of sleep, but it is necessary to distinguish between what is suitable and what is artificially induced.” (p. 73, para 3)

I have worked at schools, where the success of the nap-room teacher was dependent on getting ALL students to sleep. At these schools, the teacher could tire themselves by singing, rubbing backs, hushing and so on. Yet, undoubtedly there are some students that are not tired. Perhaps they go to bed earlier at home or maybe they just don’t need the nap. So why do we force them to sleep? Ratios of sleeping children are higher.

I am so glad that when I am asked about naptime routines at our Montessori school, I can say that napping depends on the child and the parental preference. At our school we do not force sleeping; however, children of a certain age are asked if they would like to rest. It is amazing to peer into the classrooms and see children sleeping, while the rest of the class is working quietly around them.

Maria Montessori warns parents and caretakers about making our children sleep more than they should. Yes, of course children should sleep but should not be forced to sleep when they are not tired. We should help the child recognize when they are tired and provide them with sleeping areas that are easily accessible to them and comfortable. Nap-time should not be enforced merely as a convenience to the adult.

Solving a puzzle

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 60-70). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)
Thoughts after reading PART I: 9. Intelligence

“We should try to understand there is an intelligent reason behind a child’s activities. He does nothing without reason, some motive.” (p. 68, para 2)

Montessori reminds adults that children are very intelligent and are working on developing their intellect in various ways depending on their age. As adults we are easily blinded by our own assumptions. We think we know what children want and often distract them from their own observations to point out obvious things to them and not considering the child’s own developmental needs.

Perhaps we should try to learn more from our children. Instead of placing our own opinions and ideas in their heads, we should seek to understand their ideas. Figuring out a child’s joy, frustration, curiosities, and interests is like solving a complex puzzle. You may be surprised to discover how great their intelligence is and amazed at how they assimilate information if they are allowed uninterrupted time to gather and organize their thoughts and ideas.

In the Montessori classroom work time for the child is sacred and uninterrupted. They are given a rich environment in which they can explore and gather knowledge and ideas. The teacher is a guide whom introduces children to the environment in a way that builds curiosity and invites children to discover and explore on their own.

 

Missed opportunities in development

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 37-48). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART I: 7. Psychic Development

“Slight errors at the beginning can cause the greatest deviations in later life.  A man can grow and reach maturity within a spiritual environment that is really not his own.  He lives shut out from the paradise that should have been his.” (p. 47-48, para. 4)

Certain times in a child’s life are optimal for experiencing and learning various skills or behaviors. If this moment is missed it may be harder to learn later or could be lost all together. The child has an innate desire to meet these needs and if they are not met, it can cause the child a great deal of distress.

As parents, we can get very frustrated when children through tantrums; however, Montessori explains that these tantrums are often signs of an unsatisfied need, a response to alarm, or even disorder. It is essential for us to look deeper into the root cause of the child’s distress. It is easy to demand quiet or calm, but even if the child submits to the adult’s request, their issue remains unresolved. If we discover the root of it, we are better able to understand the child and help promote peace within the child’s soul.

We should approach the child as a scientist, looking for what it is the child is seeking and help them along their journey of growth, nurturing their psychic development by providing them with an environment that can help them on their developmental journey.

Importance of order for the young child

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IMG_7032[1]Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 49-59). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART I: 8. Order

“In passing from nothing to that which will be the first principles of one’s future life, a child must make tremendous efforts.  He is so near to the very founts of life that he acts for the sake of acting.  This is the way of creation, of which we have neither knowledge nor remembrances.”

We have to be very careful when projecting our own motivations and perceptions on a child. Maria reminds us that as adults we have had many life experience which has given us in indifference towards order; whereas, as child will look for things to be where they expect them to be based on their limited experiences.

The perfect example is the hiding game. I remember playing with my own children, whom always want to hide in the same place. For the young child, the game is not about the “seeking” it is about “hiding.” The child is testing and gathering information about their environment. They are trying to make sense of the world that surrounds them, working to develop trust and knowledge they can depend on.

In the toddler room at our school, the teachers are very careful to not introduce things into the environment that would disturb their senses. Observers may only peek through the windows. Before school and afterschool exist in the same area. Every day the routine is very established and the children expect what is going to happen.

Everyday the toddler class takes a walk and when they return, I am thrilled when they wave at me.  When I first started working there, I could see the disappointment on their faces as they looked for my predecessor.  Today, I know that I have become part of their expanding world and they are happy to see me!

A reflection on the treatment of newborns

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 21-25). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART I: 4. The Newborn

“A newborn child should not  simply be shielded from harm, but measures should also be taken to provide for psychic adjustment to the world about it.” (p. 23, para. 4)

As parents we do what we have learned from our own parents and our cultural surrounding.  Although we are rooted in expectations of our communities and families, should we at least consider whether or not our actions truly benefit the child?  At a minimum we should at least entertain the notion that although we try our best and may be doing what society deems as the best for our child, there may be a better way.

Montessori makes a great point when comparing the treatment of the mother, who has given birth, with the treatment of the baby.  The infant has just gone through a tremendous journey, entering an entirely new environment.  It is true the mother has endured a tremendous ordeal; however, it is incomparable in many respects.  Montessori reminds how animals warm their babies with their own bodies, giving of their own heat to the child instead of wrapping them in clothing which can be restrictive and unnatural compared to the womb-like environment from which they came.  The process of using a midwife for my second child was a much different experience and I believe that both of us benefited from a more natural approach to childbirth.