How does mindfulness and Montessori Philosophy compliment each other?

Mindfulness is a practice of being present in the moment. Some accomplish this through meditation. Others focus on their breathing. One could also observe every sensation their body experiences or the natural environment around them. When I think of mindfulness and Montessori, I reflect on how one does “a work”. There is such intentionality in every movement and focused concentration of the exercise at hand.

During my own Montessori training, I discovered a new way of being. Instead of moving through the world in a daze, I learned to slow down and to pay attention. During my training, I was a single parent with two young children. I was recovering from trauma, so a lot was plowing through my cluttered brain. Because the lessons I was learning to teach required focus and concentration, the activities cleared my mind. All there is is the work. Children see the teacher’s deliberate, careful movements, and when it is their turn, they can also become mindful and focused. This is an important part of the Montessori normalization process of the child.

“The child who has become normalized is truly a worker-a child who, with deep joy, is absorbed in his work, and whose personality is calm, attentive, and respectful” – Maria Montessori

I think back to Karate Kid, when Mr. Miyagi teaches Daniel to focus on activities like “wax on, wax off” or catching a fly with chopsticks. All of these exercises taught movement, focus, and concentration. Like Montessori lessons, martial arts benefits from mindfulness.

“Your mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see. But if you become calm, you can see your reflection.” – Mr. Miyagi

Mindfulness and Montessori Philosophy goes beyond the classroom lessons. It spills out into a way of life. In this new way of being, one is self-aware and can regulate emotions. Other benefits can include enhanced relationships where empathy and understanding abound and a sense of peace. When you are present there is more purpose because you are living a life of intention.

Missed opportunities in development

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 37-48). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading PART I: 7. Psychic Development

“Slight errors at the beginning can cause the greatest deviations in later life.  A man can grow and reach maturity within a spiritual environment that is really not his own.  He lives shut out from the paradise that should have been his.” (p. 47-48, para. 4)

Certain times in a child’s life are optimal for experiencing and learning various skills or behaviors. If this moment is missed it may be harder to learn later or could be lost all together. The child has an innate desire to meet these needs and if they are not met, it can cause the child a great deal of distress.

As parents, we can get very frustrated when children through tantrums; however, Montessori explains that these tantrums are often signs of an unsatisfied need, a response to alarm, or even disorder. It is essential for us to look deeper into the root cause of the child’s distress. It is easy to demand quiet or calm, but even if the child submits to the adult’s request, their issue remains unresolved. If we discover the root of it, we are better able to understand the child and help promote peace within the child’s soul.

We should approach the child as a scientist, looking for what it is the child is seeking and help them along their journey of growth, nurturing their psychic development by providing them with an environment that can help them on their developmental journey.

Mysterious force within a child

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Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 29-36). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)

Thoughts after reading Part I: 6 The spiritual embryo: The incarnation

“The very fact that a child is not subject to fixed and predetermined guiding instincts is an indication of its innate liberty and freedom of action.” (p.31, para. 2)

Montessori looks at education at the importance of psychic development.  She explains a “mysterious force” which drives moves the body, helping the baby grow in many developmental areas.   Because of the special way in which human children develop, it is essential to provide them with an environment that will nurture their spirit as well as their physical development.

After my second daughter was born I was working at a Montessori school and was began studying Montessori Philosophy.  I tried to incorporate what I was learning into my parenting. Both of my children benefitted from being able to explore their environment in a less restrictive way. The result for my youngest daughter was toilet training at a very young age, as well as walking very early. Both children became very independent and enjoyed doing a lot of things for themselves.  Allowing them freedom to explore nurtured their spirit. This trait is still very present in both of their characters today.