“Experience has shown that normalization causes the disappearance of many childish traits, not only those which are considered to be defects but also others which are generally thought to be virtues. Among the traits that disappear are not only untidiness, disobedience, sloth, greed, egoism, quarrelsomeness, and instability, but also so-called “creative imagination,” delight in stories, attachment to individuals, play, submissiveness, and so forth.” (p. 154, para. 1)

Maria lists deviations which cause a child to depart from their “primitive plan of development.” A deviation is something has pulled the child off the path of development which they would naturally be drawn to follow. In these instances it is in response to the adults in the child’s lives influence, which is often not purposeful. Understanding these deviations can help us assist the child to return to his intended path.

Fugues: Fantasy play is often encouraged by adults. We relish the fantasies of children. Places like Disneyland are magical places to escape the realities of our own world. For some children the fantasy world becomes a huge distraction of activities that lack a purpose and does not develop concentration except by the way of fantasy. Santa Claus, Easter Bunny’s and Tooth Fairies are fun for the parents, but don’t ground our children in reality.   I have always been honest with my children about what is real and not real. Now that they are older, they appreciate having been told the truth.

Barriers: There are many adults that still carry barriers from childhood caused from childhood experiences relating to education. I hear adults say things like “I’ve never been a good speller” “I’m terrible at math,” or “I can’t draw.” Regardless of their intelligence, they have managed to build barriers in response to a teacher’s judgment of their capacities.

Attachment: Children need to be able to develop a sense of self instead of learned helplessness. When a child attaches themselves to close to an adult, they seek to have the adult direct them and help them in everything. This is also hard for the adult because they become like a slave to the child.

Possessiveness: Maria says that if children have not developed a natural attraction to their environment to develop their senses they are attracted instead to things, trading in love for possession. Some children are collectors, taking and storing things, even if they have no use or value. It is important for the child to reach a higher regard for nonmaterial things and to respect other’s property.

Desire for power: The manipulative child will use adults to get what they want, until the adult has nothing left to give. The child sees the adult as a source of fulfilling their wants and desires. The adult, again like a slave to child, gives and gives until they realize that their child has become spoiled and it is nearly impossible to correct. As difficult as it is, the adult should not start this unhealthy path by submitting to the child’s every whim.

Inferiority complex: The child may develop inferiority complex should he be constantly interrupted or not allowed the opportunity to complete a task. Children develop confidence through completing activities. When children are placed below adults in their ability to do or face constant correction, they feel as though they can’t do it. The child does not want the humiliation with constant correction and would rather refuse to perform an activity requested.

Fear: We want to protect our children from any harm or danger. Although our own fear is understandable, do we want to instill fear into our child? In a Montessori classroom, you will see children using knives to cut as part of a practical life exercise. The child should develop prudence, to know how to avoid danger without holding them back from developing life skills. Instead of being told not to touch the knife because it is dangerous, the children are shown how to use the knife in a safe manner.

Lies: Lies are often told as a camouflage for something else. A child may say something that they really believe is true, they also say something because they want it true. Children also tell untruths in order to defend themselves in a reflexive nature. Adults should not shame children who lie, but try to understand why the child is lying. If they are trying to defend themselves from us, we should try to create an environment where the truth is okay.

As a parent or teacher, we should recognize these deviations if they manifest in a child.  We should examine the way we interact with the child and see what we can do to help him find the way back to his natural developmental path.

Montessori, M., & Costelloe, M. J. (1972). Introduction, Childhood: A Social -Problem. The secret of childhood (pp. 154-176). New York: Ballantine Books. (Original work published 1966)